So obviously I'm not talking about now - as I am a single mum... But when me and the Ex together for everything he was to me, I'll still stand by and say that he was/is a good dad...

How 'hands on' is your DH/DP/DF as a father? Does he relieve you from duty as soon as he gets home from work, or does he fart a** around for hours first?

He would come home and get straight into what ever needed to be done, cleaning/cooking/playing with the kids, it changed depending on what our family needs were...

When he comes home in a bad mood, or after a hard day and you've also had a hard day at home - Does he a) still carry out all usual daddy duties as normal. b) have a bit of a hissy fit but then carry on with daddy duty as normal. c) Not even notice or ask how your day was, completely ignore the fact that there is a baby in the house, except to complain and swear about the amount of crying said baby is doing while simultaneously ignoring the stressed out look on your face and crazed look in your eye?

He would have a little vent - sit outside with a cuppa coffee (we tend to do this when he came home anyway) and have a chat then got straight back into it... Even when we were at our worst in our relationship and were'nt talking, he would still get in and do what needed to be done around the house and with the kids (Just wouldn't talk to me whilst doing it)


When you feel like you just can't go on another second patting, rocking and soothing in the middle of the night.............. do you feel like you can ask for help and actually get it? Does he even wake up when you speak to him?

Yes, He got up a few times, most of the time I would send him back to bed because there was no reason we should both be tired (or if he had to work the next day). but there were a few times that he took over


Does he take initiative to do the obvious things? Like give the baby some food, milk, a bath, or do you have to ask him to do it. Every day.??

Now he would take initiative... When they were babies tho he didn't, not because he couldn't, more that he was unsure of what they needed and when, because there needs changed from day to day, some days I'd bath baby in the morning and some times at night - as they got older and more routined he didn't need any prompts.

Does he ever make you feel guilty for taking a break, eg complaining about never getting a sleep in because he works 6 days, but then never acknowledging that you have broken sleep every single night. For infinity. !@#$%^&*

No, not when it came to having a sleep in or letting me rest he didn't... (if we're talking about me going out with friends - that's a whole other story....)


How does he respond to the child crying when he's having a 'power nap'? Does he hear the crying at all? Does he just roll over and ignore it even though you've been struggling for hours? Does he even realise what's happening around him?

Yes he did respond.

Huge hugs to you hun xoxo